After I posted recent allegations about Bernard Freilich‘s abuse of power his daughter, Frimie, wrote this understandable but mean spirited defense of her father and attack on me.
How dare this article been written! being the daughter of rabbi freilich, i have witnessed thousands of orthodox jewish people pestering and bothering him at all times, if its at 3am, holiday, sabbath, everybody has skeletons in there closets! if its domestic violence, loved ones in jail, child issues, or millions of other problems, my father devoted himself tirelessly for the community, and they are constantly throwing it back in his face, my guess is that this article was the work of a young shmuck who is jealous of my fathers prestige and the friendship he has the with the police and officials, this somebody, wannabe, is just a nobody who wants to be a somebody, you will never be anyone!! you have no class, like my dad does, youcant spell, speak, write, and you have the skills of a 2nd grader!!! you are what we call in this community a (hatzoloh tatte) my father never ever abused his badge (im witness to that)he is beloved by everyone in the community, family and work. we will stand by him through thick and thin, nobody will bring him down!
Here is my reply:
Facts are facts. I did not make reality nor was I even the one who reported it. However, I will comment on several aspects of your attacks on me and on what I wrote.
1. You write, “My father never ever abused his badge (i’m witness to that); He is beloved by everyone in the community, the family and at work.” You are stating things you cannot know. Certainly it was possible that you were not aware of him abusing his badge and of course you could have seen that SOME people loved him. But were you with him all the time? Do you know everyone he dealt with let alone what everyone thought of him? Most people are a mix of good and bad. Most people take great efforts to conceal their bad side, especially from their children.
2. I tend to forgive the attacks by a wounded relative, especially when they first confront unpleasant facts about someone they love and to whom they owe very much. I am going to suppose there is much that was good about how he treated you. But there is a dark underside to your attacks; a patronizing contemptuous attitude that could easily be related to a contemptuous and eventually dishonest approach to doing a job that should involve helping people. It shows up in different guises:
- “Everyone has skeletons in their closets” (and my father is saving everyone)
- Calling me (YL) a young jealous [expletive] . . wannabe . . nobody . . who can’t spell with 2nd grader skills
- Insultingly speaking about hatzolah tattes
- boasting about your father’s connections
I am sorry to say that that the way you attack me betrays a lack of nobility, refinement, and modesty that gives the lie to the your claim that your devotion to your father is proof of his good character.
3. I am sorry for your painful plight which I fear will get worse with more revelations. I can only wish you the wisdom to discern and appreciate the positives in your father while recognizing his shortcomings. Loyalty is a virtue, but not blind loyalty. Please save your energy for personally supporting your father not for fighting those allegations where there are facts that cannot be ignored. Perhaps at some point you will understand the difference between throwing your weight around and being authentically loved.
P.S. Do check out the exchanges with Frimie that follow for a fine display of Frimie’s temperament and character. Talk about entitled!