This was sent to me a little before the Weberman verdict was announced but got lost in my email. So here it is now. These are the kinds of stories many rabbonim and dayonim in Satmar hear from Weberman’s victims. Yet they have the chutzpah to declare him innocent, betraying both the truth and their responsibility to protect their flock. Shame on them. Kol Hakavod to this victim for sharing her painful story, even if only anonymously.
Guest Post by “Another Weberman Victim”
While this is truly difficult for me to share, I feel that it’s my duty and obligation to shed some light on this very controversial case. When I was a young adolescent I had the unfortunate “PRIVILEGE” of getting to know Nechemya Weberman over a period of 2+ years.
During my “COUNSELING” sessions with him, I got to know the real monster behind his beard and peyes. Without going in to all the “Dirty” details, I will say this much. The constant barrage of emotional, psychological, and physical and most of all sexual abuse was to say at the very least devastating and severely damaging.
I still shudder at the memories of those awful visits with him.
I would like to share some insight on this case as a Survivor from Weberman’s Abuse. Firstly, I am grateful every day that there is no permanent damage/scaring which can be used as evidence of the abuse. For those of you saying there is no physical evidence, you are right. But ask yourselves this, what kind of physical evidence can anyone really expect to see? It’s not like he is stupid enough to allow an audience while he held down his victims with the full weight of his body and forced himself on them.
Secondly, I know for a fact that one of weberman’s character witnesses were physically intimate with him, whether it was consensual or forced I can’t attest to, but she was certainly a minor at the time either way. The sad truth is that she is still under his grip, which trust me is way stronger than any of you can imagine, and therefore she will do anything to protect him. (Yes, including perjury). There are many other victims like myself, I know because we speak on a daily basis, which will not come out against him in effort to protect their identity. Either because they are now living happy lives and refuse to disrupt it for anyone else’s personal gain or because their statute of limitation is over so they can’t take legal action anyway. Why put yourself through the torture the other victim who did confront him endured, if legally it won’t hold any grounds. I also know for a fact that there are testimonies from MARRIED WOMAN who had consensual relations with this pig. Yes everyone you saw right “An Aishes Ish”. However, this information is not actionable since the both participants were more than willing, and overage. Of course from a legal standpoint these facts are irrelevant since being a sick perverted animal, isn’t a felony.
For those of you thinking, well why should we believe you? Whether you chose to believe it or not is Your prerogative, but I can tell you this much – I did share my horrifying experience with some close friends, family and mentor several years before Weberman was arrested for this case. In case you were wondering, yes – he did show us pornography, he did have exact specifications what to wear externally as well as underwear, and yes- he did violently force himself on us (it was not a mutually enjoyable relationship. The horrifying memories of those years still haunt me every day, but thanks to hashem I am on the road to recovery with the help and support of my wonderful husband, and my loving family.
Another thought; why would anyone in their right mind put themselves through a public trial knowing the consequences of such doings? The family was put to shame, the grandchildren expelled from school, the victim accused of lying and fabricating a story for revenge. The Answer is; she did it to try and protect our children from even having to suffer the same fate. I know I live with deep regrets and guilt for not speaking up sooner. I believe that I could’ve saved those innocent souls from suffering all those years, if I only had the courage to speak up .
The purpose of this post, is not to convince anyone of his guilt, but hopefully to answer some of these questions which are understandably in people’s minds.
I cannot share any more personal details so not to risk revealing my identity. I choose to remain anonymous to protect my friends and family from the harassment and pressure which the community I am still part of to date will inflict on us.