Purim Can Be Risky

purim_binge_drinking_640_29Purim is fun. Purim is drinking. Purim has people coming and going in all sorts of places. Purim means too many kids who are not sufficiently supervised.

Purim is paradise [pardes and the English paradise are Persian words] for sex abusers. They themselves may be less inhibited while under the influence. Giving alcohol to younger boys can make them less resistant to influence and to abuse. Afterwards, the offender can claim it was silliness, not as claimed, abuse. I have heard too many stories of abuse that happened on Purim, typically involving older boys or young men with teens. Similar stories also happen other times of the year in Chabad with its ubiquitous vodka. That elixir of kiruv (outreach) knocks down boundaries and restraints.

Parents need to monitor settings where kids are, or be sure some other responsible adult is monitoring. They also need to regulate alcohol use. I am not puritanical about alcohol for under-age kids on Purim. But it becomes dangerous beyond limited quantities.

Alcohol kills in large enough quantities. Hatzolah organizations around the country report deaths and serious emergencies after Purim. Don’t let it happen to your kid.

Be funny, be smart, be happy afterwards.

Chag sameach! Happy Purim

Purim Can Be Risky

purim_binge_drinking_640_29Purim is fun. Purim is drinking. Purim has people coming and going in all sorts of places. Purim means too many kids who are not sufficiently supervised.

Purim is paradise [pardes and the English paradise are Persian words] for sex abusers. They themselves may be less inhibited while under the influence. Giving alcohol to younger boys can make them less resistant to influence and to abuse. Afterwards, the offender can claim it was silliness, not as claimed, abuse. I have heard too many stories of abuse that happened on Purim, typically involving older boys or young men with teens. Similar stories also happen other times of the year in Chabad with its ubiquitous vodka. That elixir of kiruv (outreach) knocks down boundaries and restraints. Continue reading

Tropper Blames It On Alcoholism (Satire)

In a surprising development in the unfolding Tropper affair, Leib blamed his misconduct on alcoholism.

I finally understood the sources of my conduct which might appear to be improper. I was moved by seeing Hagaon Rav Shmuel Kaminetsky’s drashah about Purim and the follow up by Rabbi Twerski about the need to limit oneself to a little more than one glass of wine. Until now I was foolishly drinking 2-3 glasses of wine with lunch. The wine and the heavy meat meals lulled me and misled me. I have now joined a 12 step group recommended by Rabbi Twerski. I intend to accomplish complete tshuvah through my new organization, Eternal Jewish Tshuvah. In the meantime I ask the rabbonim of Monsey to patiently extend my time in town for the few years necessary for me to complete my tshuvah. I thank the butcher Reb Finkel for his support in my struggle and I look forward to his rehabilitation. I believe his new enterprise will also take wing in Monsey.

Leib Tropper’s excuses and advocacy of Purim moderation were vigorously derided by an unexpected coalition that brought together the modern orthodox and Lubavitch with the slogan Free SMR. It turns out the modern orthodox supporters are men’s clubs who thought SMR refers to the Single Malt Refreshment typical of their kiddush clubs. The Chabadniks of course consider the freedom of Rubashkin a major cause. They believe strongly in the holiness of vodka for Chabadniks. They are now in the process of filing a suit claiming that Rubashkin is being deprived of his religious freedom because he cannot get vodka in jail. Continue reading