Purim Can Be Risky

purim_binge_drinking_640_29Purim is fun. Purim is drinking. Purim has people coming and going in all sorts of places. Purim means too many kids who are not sufficiently supervised.

Purim is paradise [pardes and the English paradise are Persian words] for sex abusers. They themselves may be less inhibited while under the influence. Giving alcohol to younger boys can make them less resistant to influence and to abuse. Afterwards, the offender can claim it was silliness, not as claimed, abuse. I have heard too many stories of abuse that happened on Purim, typically involving older boys or young men with teens. Similar stories also happen other times of the year in Chabad with its ubiquitous vodka. That elixir of kiruv (outreach) knocks down boundaries and restraints.

Parents need to monitor settings where kids are, or be sure some other responsible adult is monitoring. They also need to regulate alcohol use. I am not puritanical about alcohol for under-age kids on Purim. But it becomes dangerous beyond limited quantities.

Alcohol kills in large enough quantities. Hatzolah organizations around the country report deaths and serious emergencies after Purim. Don’t let it happen to your kid.

Be funny, be smart, be happy afterwards.

Chag sameach! Happy Purim

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Purim Can Be Risky

purim_binge_drinking_640_29Purim is fun. Purim is drinking. Purim has people coming and going in all sorts of places. Purim means too many kids who are not sufficiently supervised.

Purim is paradise [pardes and the English paradise are Persian words] for sex abusers. They themselves may be less inhibited while under the influence. Giving alcohol to younger boys can make them less resistant to influence and to abuse. Afterwards, the offender can claim it was silliness, not as claimed, abuse. I have heard too many stories of abuse that happened on Purim, typically involving older boys or young men with teens. Similar stories also happen other times of the year in Chabad with its ubiquitous vodka. That elixir of kiruv (outreach) knocks down boundaries and restraints. Continue reading

Do Not Dress Like A Modern Orthodox Jew, Even On Purim

From the archives from 2/26/10

HaloModiah

Adar 11, 5770

Rav ChasVchallilah Chinyok, of Bnei Brak paskened that one may not dress like a so-called modern “orthodox Jew,” even on Purim. In an interview with HaloModiah he explained:

Wearing modern orthodox clothing implies laxity on halachah, contempt for torah lishmah, the heresy of Zionism, and now, support for women as rabbis. In the past I have been lenient because we know that on Purim we wear costumes of goyim and others we do not emulate. It is understood that this is a joke, lehepech, to turn things around and do the opposite. Recently I have heard young people say that they admire the way those other Jews can have internet and train for parnassah. It has come to my attention through a choshov askan, who publishes kosher newspaper, that many of our youth were planning to dress up as modern orthodox Jews this Purim. The intent was not lehapech, but to sneak out and go to Internet cafes. Accordingly this year we will not allow modern orthodox costumes on Purim. There are plenty of goyish and animal costumes one can wear instead.

Dress Up As a Vaad Hatznius Member This Purim

If you have been putting off getting a Purim costume, here is an easy solution. Dress up as a member of the Vaad Hatznius. You don’t really need to do anything special. However, for special effect you could go around with binoculars hanging from your neck. You might also add on a video camera with a good zoom lens and a tape recorder. The only essential equipment is one of those brown markers they use in stores to check hundred dollar bills. If you are really short on time Continue reading