LET’S GET REAL ABOUT CHANGING STANDARDS AT YU (from the archives 10/30/13)

Yeshiva University is going to be in the news again for mishandling sexual abuse, in this case the rape of a student by a varsity basketball player. Stay tuned for more details. But part of their legal team identified in the suit includes attorney Karen Bitar. This got me thinking of her ridiculous claims regarding the abuse by YU boys’ HS principal, George Finkelstein.


According to The Forward, yesterday’s hearing on the lawsuit by over thirty former Yeshiva University (YU) High School students focused on the the statute of limitations. YU’s attorney:

Karen Bitar… said she wanted to make clear that “we do not think these allegations are in any way insignificant, unimportant or unserious.” But, Bitar added, the allegations took place at a time “when the [mores] or what was deemed typical or appropriate was much different than what it is today.”

Really? Does Ms. Bitar expect us to believe that at the time it was typical or appropriate for a yeshiva principal to:

take “defenseless boys,” and pin them to the floor, “where they couldn’t move, and proceed to hump them in the backside with an erect penis until he achieved climax.”

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Breaking- Berland Admits Forcible Rape of a Married Woman on Recording

800_r73zc9h8pkprpcfyjh4tzzu5f57ymhvs1Israel’s Mako news service posted a hetefore unrevealed old recording of Rabbi Eliezer Berland saying:

Totally, she was raped from beginning to end.

After, it she asked is it permitted, she asked after the first time I raped her if she is permitted to her husband [or whether she was an adulterous wife who had to be divorced].

Beyond any doubt she is permitted to her husband.

She did not understand what happened. She asked me, “What happened? What happened here?”

I told her, “You are not an adulterous wife; you are not an adulterous wife.” Continue reading

Explaining Surviving Sexual Assault, Triggers, Voice & Regaining Control

Melissa Harris-PerryMelissa Harris-Perry, a  survivor of sexual assault, delivers an impassioned and enlightening video message. It is a must-see eye-opener. One of the most moving things I have seen in a while. I first posted this a year ago, but it bears mentioning again because I have many new readers. People often ask me, “Why can’t the victims move on; why do they dwell in the past; why are they so obsessed with challenging the system?” Continue reading