When people talk about (Rabbi?) Baruch Lanner they immediately go to his history of sexually abusing girls and kicking boys in the testicles in NCSY and in his other roles as an educator and principal. They think of his decades of being allowed to continue until the Jewish Week expose and the OU Special Commission on NCSY. They think of his conviction, time in prison, and the mystery of how he got off the New Jersey sex offender registry though he is on the Florida registry.
I have also heard about another dark side to Lanner, his psychopathic trait of manipulating those he abused and many people he dealt with in NCSY and elsewhere. But for those traits, he could not have succeeded in his career as an abuser spanning over three decades, and probably hundreds of victims.
I feel it is important to better document his manipulations by describing his style and instances of him in action.
This post is a CALL FOR EXAMPLES OF BARUCH LANNER IN ACTION at any point, and about any manipulations, whether or not they involved physical or sexual abuse.
I find that some people just cannot understand how serial molesters manage to have long careers. Others are mystified that such people manage to rehabilitate their image. In my experience the prolific, serial molesters usually are skilled manipulators. I feel collecting such information will help educate the public about specific individuals and will help make us all better able to spot other abusers before they are too far along in their careers. I am even vaguely hopeful that some of Lanner’s supporters will recognize how they have been manipulated and reconsider their stance. It will certainly help survivors and others in the community improve their ability to educate the uninformed about Lanner.
Lanner supporters have been trolling the comments on previous posts. I will exercise my moderation powers to limit this post to the question at hand. Other offenders, other issues, etc, will be blocked. I want to focus on the question at hand; how does Lanner manipulate? I can see the Lanner trolls, sock puppets, and perhaps even Lanner himself in disguise, howling not fair. So be it. I will take that risk, though i am usually open to a fault. In addition, as the volume of comments has exploded I find that violating the rule of confining comments to the topic of the post is degrading the reading experience for others. It just doesn’t work to have twenty or more people talking about ten different topics. I may just create a permanent open thread to cover any topic.